Here are some problematic behaviors that people often see exhibited by their soon-to-be ex-spouses while they’re going through their divorces:
- They may threaten to take the kids. Keep in mind that threats are easy to make, but getting a judge to agree to sole custody isn’t all that simple. Your ex can’t get sole custody of the kids without the court’s say-so.
- You may be accused of abuse. Some embittered spouses will try to weaponize allegations of domestic violence or child abuse in order to force their exes out of the family home or to try to win the upper hand in a custody battle. Accusations like this are always investigated to determine whether or not they are truthful.
- They will break agreements. Good reasoning may compel your spouse to make an agreement — but a flash of regret or fury later will cause them to change their minds again.
- They will try to hurt your finances. Some spouses may act out financially. Be sure to protect your assets as much as possible when going through a complicated divorce. Assume that your spouse will promptly empty the joint bank account or try to cut you off from jointly held properties and act accordingly to protect yourself.
- They may try to use your social media against you. Social media is becoming more prevalent each year. During a divorce, it is important to be smart and extremely careful about what you put on your social media. Always be aware that your spouse may be looking at what you post.
With luck, your spouse’s behavior will neutralize. In the meantime, talk to your own attorney about strategies you can use to minimize the struggle with your divorce.
