How to ask for a prenuptial agreement without angering your partner

How to ask for a prenuptial agreement without angering your partner

| Jul 31, 2020 | Prenuptial agreements |

With your wedding day fast approaching, you’re running out of time to discuss the idea of a prenuptial agreement with your partner.

You know it’s something you want to at least discuss, but you have a major concern: The reaction of your partner and the potential impact on your relationship.

In other words, you don’t want to give your partner the idea that you’re already preparing for a divorce.

Here are three tips to follow when asking your partner for a prenuptial agreement:

  • Do not wait until the last minute: You do not want to wait until you are planning the final details of your wedding before talking to your partner about a prenuptial agreement. It is better to address it early so that you and your partner do not feel rushed and are not discussing the prenuptial agreement when you should be enjoying wedding festivities.
  • Talk about the benefits for both of you: If you make a prenuptial agreement look like something that only benefits you, it’s natural for your partner to push back. But if they realize that there are benefits for them too, they’ll be more inclined to listen.
  • Explain your reasons: Give your partner the reasons why you want a prenuptial agreement. For example, if you watched your parents go through a bitter divorce, you may be more aware of the toll a divorce can take and have a desire to avoid this as much as possible.
  • Talk it out: This isn’t a time to issue demands. Not only does it put your partner off, but it may also invalidate the prenuptial agreement you eventually create. Have an open and honest conversation during which both of you share your feelings.

When you follow these tips, you’ll find it easier to ask for a prenuptial agreement without angering your partner. As a result, you’re in a better position to create a meaningful agreement that benefits both of you.

You’re not required by law to create a prenuptial agreement, but most couple on the verge of marriage should at least consider it.